A broken heart can be one of the toughest experiences a person can endure. People can become overwhelmed with feelings of failure. However don’t distress, you’re not alone! Studies show that 85% of relationship across the entire world end in breakups. “If there is no intention to get married in the first place, most singles are simply wasting their time. Over some time, the flaws of their dating partners will only get magnified and the relationship will break,” says bestselling author and matchmaker Hellen Chen.
If that wasn’t enough to cheer you up, the average person has 10 break ups per lifetime. So you may just want to grab a pen, and take note of the best tips for making a comeback after a breakup.
Give Yourself a Makeover
If you are looking in the mirror and feeling negative about yourself after your breakup, it’s time to totally revamp yourself. Invest in some new skincare products. Buy some new lipstick. Treat yourself to a new wardrobe. If you don’t have the funds for it, remember that you have a credit card for emergencies. This is considered an emotional emergency!
The value that you will feel after feeling good about yourself is priceless. Just make sure it’s a makeover within reason. Meaning instead of a mid-life crisis yacht, maybe opt for the motorboat.
Do Some Soul Searching
When was the last time you spent some quality time alone? Took a bubble bath or walked through the rain listening to Band of Horses on your headphones. One of the positive things we can take away from break-ups is the reconnection we get to make with ourselves.
We can spend so much time in a relationship with the other person, that we forget what our inner voice sounds like. We are so used to eating Cambodian food because they like it, that we completely forget that we love Mexican.
Being single is a great time to get in touch with what you like, want, and desire. After taking some time to love yourself again without the approval of anyone else, then you can start playing the field a little. But that alone time is essential to really figure out what you want next time in a person so that you don’t make the same mistakes again.
Remember when you were a little kid and your parents would take you to get an ice cream cone after getting a shot at the doctor’s office? Now that you’re a grown up there’s nobody there to give you that band-aid and a treat after a painful experience. It’s time to be that person for yourself!
Treat yourself to a nice dinner for one, or get a spa treatment that rejuvenates you and brings you back to a calm state. You deserve it!